Angry: Hiding Collecting

A prevalent theme in the card community this week has found people being asked if they hide their collecting habits from their loved ones. It was GoGTSLive’s question of the week and Sports Card Collectors have a nice post up on it. You can find their post here: http://sportcardcollectors.blogspot.com/2018/09/do-you-hide-hobby.html

Every couple of weeks, I am reminded of why I started this site. The fact that I hide my collecting from my family is one reason. By doing this site, I am trying to turn my collecting into something positive. I see the gambling nature of collecting cards, my family sees it.

One of the big struggles that I have with my family is answering why collecting is worth it. I have one very close friend who does not understand why I open packs and then put the cards in a box and do not showcase them. In a perfect world, I would showcase them. I have some of my favorite, less valuable cards hung up in a display case of about 20. I also have some cards hanging up by that sticky gum thumbtack alternative. That has been my go to. For the most part, those are Panthers base cards. My friend being hard on me in that regard actually helped me. That said, I do find myself hiding the hobby from her. Sometimes when we are in Target if she drags me into a female clothes aisle or women’s magazine section, I will make sure that she stays with me in the cards aisle. That is if I feel secure. Problem is, I never feel secure so me looking at cards with her, or any of my friends, is usually looking over the cashiers shoulder to see what is there.

My sister, who I live with, absolutely hates it when I buy cards. I have gone to lengths where I will put maildays in my car before bringing the mail in if she is home. I do this even for contests. Her fear is that I am putting cards over survival.

Lastly, I have had some girlfriends who have been great about my collecting. I don’t think they ever realized the scope of my collecting. Even with them, I still went to some lengths to hide my collecting. If they were in my room, my storage boxes were never out in the open.

I have nothing against people who don’t understand my collecting. Truthfully, I don’t understand it. We all need healthy hobbies. Hopefully I am collecting healthily. Everyone has a vice. We need a hobby to zone out in this crazy world. My best relationships, especially with my significant others, have been the ones where me have a mutual understanding to not talk too much about our hobbies too much and focus on each other. If you can find that balance then the more power to you.

 

Here is the GoGTSLive poll:

I am convinced that a good 25% lied or answered the way that they did because they do not have a spouse.

 

I was going to do a Random Review for this week’s post but the product that I was expecting has not come.

Angry: Bowman idiots

I am not even saying this out of jealousy. I am saying it because I question the rationale behind the people buying it. Does the person even truly care about Ohtani? How many collectors out there are Angels fans? How many collectors would be fans of this guy if his rookie card wasn’t a money maker?

Then there is the people who do things for internet validation. Those people are the worst. This is real life. If you want internet validation, buy some followers. It is a lot cheaper than the $250 people have been spending on the boxes. Congrats that you maxed out your credit card. Too bad you won’t pull the Ohtani Superfractor from a blaster, dumbass. It’s not like there is an Ohtani autograph in every case either. These people are buying several hundred dollar lottery tickets. THINK IT THROUGH DUMBASS BEFORE BUYING OUT THE STORE. 

Let’s take a look at the math. A blaster is $20 plus tax. Then you have credit card fees on top of that. Posts that I have seen show people buying 12 boxes on average. They resell for $30 shipped. Minus shipping fees, Ebay fees if you list them there, Paypal fees, and credit card fees, and gas money; you are making what $20? Come on, get real people.

Now if you are a legitimate collector and buy Bowman normally: congrats, you are not one of the idiots. You are just an idiot for being a prospect collector.

Angry: Passive-aggressive Ebay feedback

So here is the deal: I leave passive aggressive positive feedback all the time to show sellers that their slights don’t go unnoticed. Recently I won 7 auctions from the same seller. Some auctions had 3 cards, some had 1 card. I knew ahead of time that I was going to win multiple auctions so I messaged him asking his combined shipping price. He said 50 cents per auction after the initial $3. So for 12 cards I was charged $7 shipping. Shipping at most would have been $4. I didn’t message the guy, but I left said passive aggressive feedback on 3 or 4 of the 7 auctions calling him out for the shipping prices. He messaged me after it.

His parting shot was this:
“lol good talk over a 20 dollar deal… remember next time u sell shipping fees went up. next time don’t bid on something that u already know the price of. That would make everything easier for everybody including u as seller and a buyer… have a good night and enjoy your cards!!”

As much as I wanted to respond and call him out for handling this $20 situation like this, and then suddenly saying it wasn’t worth it because of the price, I just didn’t care. I was passive aggressive because I didn’t want to message him in the first place.

So do you have a take on this situation? We all know that sellers who charge an arm and a leg for shipping like this are bad for the hobby, but how about how this situation was handled? Is passive aggressive positive feedback alright to do or should I have messaged the guy in the first place? Was he wrong for how he handled it? Do I need to be put in my place? Do you leave passive aggressive positive feedback?

Angry: The PWE debate continued & should redemptions be toploaded

This post has been triggered by my tantrum Twitter last night which led to some great conversations with the community. Recently I have buying up Panini Points in hopes of being prepared should Panini add a card that I need for my Prestige collection in its rewards catalog. I have bought 3 or 4 of them and paid for shipping for all but one that came in a plain white envelope. Now for the record, if I pay anything under $2, I have no problem getting my card in a PWE as long as it is toploaded. Recently one of those cards came in a PWE without a toploader for a card where shipping was $2.89. This leads me to two questions: the neverending PWE debate and should redemptions:

I have been burned so many times by people who charge me for shipping and ship in a PWE that I have included a message in the top of my Ebay profile:

“AngryCardCollector.com I don t run a card shop. Anything I sell is to get money so I can buy more cards. If I buy a card from you where you charge me more than $2 in shipping and don t ship in a bubble mailer, I will ask for a refund on shipping.”

http://www.ebay.com/usr/pandanwh. I am actually going to change it soon because this week I realized that I could say it clearer grammatically. I just haven’t changed it because I don’t want the seller that I am dealing with to call me out on it. I am also going to include that I will leave negative feedback if not refunded because that has been my modus-operandi: whenever I get a PWE and confirm that I was charged over $2 shipping I ask for a refund and leave negative feedback if the seller gets angry at me or refuses to do it. I know more than anyone that being a seller is hard enough but I do live by a few rules and this PWE issue is one of them. I also always ask for $2 back so the seller so can at least keep his stamp money; although in my mind a seller who sends a card in a PWE deserves to lose all of it.

For those that don’t know: shipping in a bubble mailer under five ounces within the US is $2.67. Now I have no problem if I am charged anything under $4 to account for the cost of a bubble mailer. Also while Ebay gives a discount on shipping, they negate that by taking a higher percentage of a seller’s shipping cost; probably because too many people get greedy and try to make money off shipping.

Before moving on to the redemption question, I am going to bring up a tangent. I will leave the seller that I am currently having an issue with negative feedback unless he refunds me in the time frame that I gave him for one very reason: he says that I didn’t ask nicely so he is refusing. So I must ask what is a nice way to say:  “Hey, I don’t like that you screwed me on shipping. Refund me before midnight on this day or I will negative feedback.” Obviously I say it a tad nicer but you get the gist of it. As far as I am concerned, you can write this out in the nicest way possible, if that is even a scenario, and the seller will still call you out because he sees right through it. So as far as I am concerned saying that you won’t refund anyone for that reason, regardless of the issue, is a way of showing that you are the dick and not the person who you are accusing. Although, for the record: I do not deny being a dick in some of my messages with sellers. In a few cases, it takes the seller two messages to respond, so I am forced to get harsh.

Now moving on to redemptions. As far as I am concerned, any card being shipped in a PWE deserves a PWE; there are no exceptions. This included redemptions. Also redemptions deserve their own bubble mailer if you charge over $2 shipping. This is actually a perk for me as I reuse bubble mailers because I unfortunately live in a world where $2 matters to me – call me cheap but I am not denying that and that is the reality of someone living on a tight budget.

Panini points are a joke. I am not denying that, even though I have picked up cards that are valuable to me via the program. The points are at the bottom of the redemption ladder. Now just because points are the cheapest of the redemptions, doesn’t mean that they deserve any less than other redemptions. Taking away the Trout’s of the world, let’s use another example: take a redemption for a player like Justin Bohr, David West, or any late round NFL draft prospect. Their cards have always come to me in a bubble mailer. I would love to hear if they haven’t for you.

I have been collecting hardcore since 2003, and have bought several redemption cards. When shipped to me, they have always come in a bubble mailer when I paid for one. Truthfully I have never thought about redemptions deserving less when shipped. As far as I am concerned they are no different to me than base cards or inserts that are worthy of being sold individually. Some people have taken me to task for demanding my points be at least toploaded. Here is my rationale for this: while I throw the card away after I use the code, what if I was going to flip it? I would want it in the best condition possible. Card condition reflects on me regardless if it is a base or Ted Williams autograph.

I would love to hear people’s opinions on this. Also feel free to call me out if you think that I am wrong on any of this. My mind wants to be changed because I know that will make me easier to deal with when this inevitably happens again. This is a never ending debate in the card community so don’t be afraid to share. I also re-Tweet thoughtful responses on Twitter to this.

Angry: A Random Ebay Seller

I thought that I was getting a Klay Thompson Prestige jersey lot for $4. Unfortunately, I had one of those situations that feel that it can only happen to me. Well at least they are bizarre to me.

Order of events:
– The tracking number says the package is delivered. It is not. What happened is that he sent the package to himself, or at least that is how it looked, as it never left his home state.
– I am refunded the shipping cost and seller says that he will send me the cards right away.
– I get a message saying that if I didn’t get the cards by Tuesday, he would refund my whole purchase. This makes me think that I have no chance of getting the cards.
– I don’t get the cards on the date. He asks if I got the cards. I said that I will wait it out and don’t want a refund; I just want the cards.
– I notice 2 messages this morning from him. One says thanks for the reply. The next says: “My sincerest apologies. I just received a Mail back today from the Milwaukee post office that your package was damaged and contents were lost. I’m terribly sorry for all the inconvenience, I will be refunding you right away.”
– To his credit, he refunded right away.

The lot was nothing special to most people. A Klay Thompson jersey card and an Andre Iguodala jersey card.  Nothing to cry about, as hard to find as the Thompson Prestige True Colors card is, but still enough to make me angry. I am tempted to leave him neutral feedback. I will wait a few days to calm down before doing anything. What do you think?

A nice silver lining is that it basically turned a portion of my Ebay gift card into Paypal credit.

Angry #2: PWE mailing discussion

Last week, I triggered a Twitter discussion on receiving cards in plain white envelopes, note: for the rest of the article I will be referring to them as ‘PWE.’For the most part, I have no problem with receiving cards in PWEs. Most of the time they are protected and  shipping is free. My opinion has only been swayed because I saw first hand the dangers of PWEs, as seen in a previous post: Danger of Plain White Envelopes. If you are too lazy to click, here is a picture:

Plain White Envelope Danger-Daniel DuBay
Plain White Envelope Danger-Daniel DuBay

What I hate it buying from sellers who are misleading about it. If I have to pay any form of shipping over the price of a stamp, I am ‘angry.’ Most of the time, I begrudgingly do it because my budget forces me to be thrifty and I really want the card. Most of the time sellers are very transparent about sending cards in PWEs.
What triggered the Twitter discussion was the fact that I paid a dollar for shipping and the seller didn’t say anything about the card being shipped in a PWE.

I was also angry when the next day, a card that was free shipping arrived like this20160721_122827

That may seem like nothing but you could fit a finger through it. The point is, I am getting to the point where I am over PWEs. Most people that send them don’t know how to protect the cards. The few that do charge for shipping. If it is for a contest, fine. For the most part, I send cards in heavily protected PWEs, but if you are selling a card and I get an envelope like above, I am not buying from you again. PWEs are bad for sellers as much as buyers.

The discussion triggered a lot of responses. They ranged from: ‘I have no problem as long as the card wasn’t damaged” to “Block that person.” I am curious what you think?
I personally left the person that triggered the discussion good but nasty feedback. How would you have reacted?